Should You Ever Keep Up a Love Triangle?Love triangles can be tricky. Whether your situation involves friends with benefits or someone else is stealing your spotlight, emociones are definitely at stake. That doesn't mean that you can't learn to confront the situation head on. Here's how to deal with the scenarios that are worth fighting for and the one's that should be ended. BY THALÍA ORTIZ
We've all heard or been a witness to the classic love triangle. It plays out all the time in our favorite shows like True Blood where Bill and Eric were fighting for Sookie. Or who could forget the tension filled triangle between Bella, Edward and Jacob in Twilight? But love triangles aren't just for vamps. Certain situations are worth sticking around for and others not so much.
Scenario: You're both single and friends with benefits, but he's also FWBs with another girl and you really like him. What do you say/how do you approach it?
Friends with benefits always starts out innocently enough with the shared intention of having some fun. The thing is, someone almost always catches feelings or gets attached. You can't get mad and crazy jealous that he's with another girl because guys can be clueless and he may not know that you like him. The same way that he's being upfront about seeing another girl is how you have to be and tell him how you feel. Fight for this one a little by sitting him down and telling him that you like him as more than a friend. Don't immediately say that you want a full blown relationship, but let him know that you're not seeing other people and you would like him to do the same. It could honestly go either way, but if he still chooses to see the other girl then you have to step back and break off the FWBs. Even though the friendship may get awkward, it's best for you to give yourself some space for a while. In order to save the friendship, avoid being bitter and let him do whatever makes him happy.
Scenario: You have two dudes, and one is getting super clingy, but you're not that into him. What do you do?
In this instance you have to make a decision and eliminate one of the guys which would likely be the clinger. Be real with him and say something along the lines of, "You're a really great guy but I'm not interested in you like that and I want to give both of us the opportunity to see other people." If he knows the other dude that's in the triangle, be honest and tell him that you just want to see the other guy instead. Don't try to hide it and make it seem like you want to be single because if he finds out that you two went behind his back to be together, it will be worse. Limit your contact with this dude as much as possible because you don't want to lead him on into thinking he still has a chance with you when he doesn't.
Scenario: You like him, he knows it and he's showing interest back, but he won't break it off with la otra chica because he's just not ready to commit. Is it worth fighting for?
This is the scenario that probably deserves the least amount of your time. If he is well aware that you are into him and is giving off signs that he likes you too, again ask him to stop seeing the other girl. If he really doesn't break it off with her and wants to keep seeing you, break it off. It may be tempting to hook up with another guy you're not interested in to get him jealous, but it'll only backfire and make you seem immature. This guy clearly wants to have his cake and eat it too, so he's taking advantage of your patience. If you've given him plenty of chances up until this point, don't wait around for that mujeriego and move on.
Thank you for reading, God bless you!
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